Archive for January 9th, 2009
Not Love Just Alliance
I don’t believe in love.
Having added the period at the end of that sentence, it officially makes me a hypocrite, because I tell my family I love them all the time. I even drop the “L Word” on silly, insignificant things like, “I love that movie” or “I love caramel covered nut bars”.
Truth is, I still don’t believe in love, even though I use the word. I use the word because it’s accepted everywhere and it expresses the point I’m trying to make fast and with ease. Nobody is confused by saying, “I love you”. They might be confused if your actions don’t match your words, but I don’t remember ever hearing someone say, “They told me that they loved me. What do you think they meant by that?”
I think about love a lot. What does it mean, where does it come from, why is it here? I also think about it a lot when it comes to relationships, since 113% of pop culture is based on “boy meets girl” or “boy sleeps with girl’s cousin, while girl is sleeping with boy’s best friend”. It makes you wonder what’s going on with all of us. The divorce rate is outstandingly high, but yet some couples make it through the test of time, which leaves the rest of us wondering why and how.
This is why I don’t believe in love, I believe in alliances. That’s what makes relationships last. I don’t think it has to do with opposites attracting, things in common, similar backgrounds, identical political party affiliation, religious denomination, or economic standards. It’s all just an alliance you make with another person. It’s finding someone that you know has your back or your best interests at heart, (in the long run). They might hate your velvet Elvis painting, or forget your birthday or even make you feel stupid at a party in front of your friends, but that doesn’t mean they’re not on your side. It just means they’re human and humans are kind of insane. That’s why it’s so important to find one that you can form an alliance with, because it’s you against the world! I know, I know, easier said than done, but then again if you weren’t looking for love you might find an ally.
As far as love and your family, well you just have to love your family, especially your kids.
And puppies are quite loveable.
Egg On!
Ramblin’ Rooster
