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Marriage Shmarraige

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I was communicating with a friend of mine via e-mail today and he really got me thinking. About marriage of all things and kind of God and society too, but I’m just making a mess. Let me start from the beginning.

 

My friend’s original question was if my “reverendship” was legitimate. What’s that? You didn’t know I was a card carrying reverend? That’s right, from now on call me Reverend Roosta! Truth is I was ordained over the internet by filling out a form. I did it so that I could marry my brother, (to his girlfriend you sickos!).

 

Anyway, I was telling my friend that I don’t really consider myself a reverend or a “man of the cloth” because anyone with ten minutes to spare and internet access can become “ordained”. This all somehow led into the topic of marriage and how society views or forms opinions about marriage.

 

My friend… OK, I’m tired of using “my friend” so as always, playing the part of my friend is none other than John Doe. Back to the story…

 

John started saying to me that he was offended by the fact that anyone could marry a couple and that it took away from the sanctity of the holy institution. John went on to volunteer that marriage is sacred, that it’s a public promise to God, (and apparently anyone who’s watching) that you’re “swearing” vows. It’s this “public promise” that gives accountability to the relationship. “Why don’t you guys get divorced?” “I’d hate for the neighbors to think I was a quitter.” I guess…

 

John felt that if “any yahoo with twenty bucks could get a license to marry people off” that it somehow cheapened the experience. Only a scholar blessed with higher faith had the right to join people in holy matrimony.

 

My response was that I never really thought of marriage as such things. I’ve always thought of it as an agreement between two people, kind of like a contract. If certain clauses are violated the contract is null and void. If the party of the first part and the party of the second part decide that it’s time to revise or dissolve the contract so be it. I don’t think marriage should be taken lightly or done on a whim and I’m not an advocate for overnight divorce, but people change and circumstance can be extenuating. Basically I couldn’t care less if you marry and divorce one hundred times, it’s when kids get involved that I think it’s incredible selfish to bail.

 

The conversation took a quick nose dive after that and the e-mails ended. It did make me think though, about the fast food mentality of modern marriage. Divorce is so common that I wonder if people who get divorced even consider it, (or themselves) a failure. Most marriages throw in the fine print of “for better or for worse”, but once the worse rolls in the better gets packin’, (or something like that). There was a ‘Non-Sequitur’, (an awesome comic strip by Wiley Miller if you’re not hip) that was a couple getting married with the man saying, “I promise to love, honor and cherish till death do us part or until I get bored” (I’m butchering it, but it’s been like ten years since I read it. You get the point though). People are pretty much willing to get divorced over conflict involving control of the remote.

 

It’s kind of like when my mother told me that when she was a kid that a child’s worse fear was to disappoint their parents. I couldn’t understand where she was really coming from, because I didn’t feel the same way.

 

All I’m saying is that if you get married I hope you love the person you’re marrying and are prepared to come to terms with wanting to kill them without losing your love. How you feel at the beginning and how you feel after ten years are going to be completely different. Prepare as needed.

 

Also I’d be happy to marry you, (perform the services, gah!) for $20.

 

Egg On!

Ramblin’ Rooster

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May 14, 2009 at 4:47 am

What’s The Difference Between Love And Hate?

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I’m not sure what the answer is, but I think it’s around twenty dollars.

Before we get started let’s just clarify love and hate. When used in this blog, we’re talking about true, deep, heart felt emotions. This doesn’t apply to, “I hate hot dogs” or “I love ice cream.” This is like “soul mate” love and “you just ran over my dog on purpose” hate.

The subject of emotion is a touchy one. Well it’s an emotional one isn’t it? I’ve met a lot of people that seems to be with out emotion and I’ve met a lot of people that seem to have acquired the extra emotion floating around because it’s always pouring out. It never seems to be distributed properly, does it?

There are two different sides to emotion. You have emotion that is better described as passion, but its emotion all the same. Then you have emotion that is a reflection of how you feel. Be it sad, happy, angry, scared, love or hate. What’s the main difference between all these emotions, because in the big scheme of things they appear to be a lot alike?

Fear, (being scared) and excitement mirror each other exactly, as do love and hate. The difference between the two is the context in which they are felt and expressed. If you ask someone how they feel in love, the list of “feelings” they describe are similar in nature to hate.

Both love and hate are strong emotions and take a toll on the owner. In the beginning stages, the feeling is all consuming and it’s hard to concentrate or think about anything other than the object of your emotion. As time passes the “high” steadies out to be a pulse if you will, that keeps a constant, repetitive level of devotion. This is where a lot of people lose interest or in the case of hatred, forgive or forget. It is only the true of heart that may pass or you get to be old and talk about how much you can’t stand the person you love with all your heart.

I’ve always thought of hate as love that had no where to go. In by which the metamorphous is transpired by not wanting to die, so it feeds itself in a new avenue. Kind of like the joke, “What the difference between a bitch and slut? A slut sleeps with everybody and a bitch sleeps with everybody but you.” Like a baby that can’t get what it wants, the emotion is immediate, and most of the time without conscious thought, turned into negative emotion. Rejection is often the fuel from the flip of love and hate. Basically love and hate is the same thing, but we decide which mask it wears.

So if you tell me how much you hate my blog, I know you really love it deep, down inside.

Egg On!

Ramblin’ Rooster

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December 8, 2008 at 4:45 am